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A New Perspective

Dealing with a serious illness day in and day out puts things in a different perspective.  

“The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven..” 
― John Milton, Paradise Lost

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What Does ALS Look Like

2/15/2013

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Ruben, one of the many people who obeyed that "nudge" and took time out of his day to stop by and make Akhil smile.
ALS starts out like a sly snake creeping through the body and subtly impacting different aspects of the victim’s physical being.  The speech may be affected by the occasional slurred speech.  A limb may be affected as evidenced in weakness.  Swallowing may be impaired so that the victim frequently chokes while eating or even swallowing his own saliva.

As ALS progresses, one would think it would be a huge, scary monster that is unbeatable.  It affects every aspect of the victim’s life.  The ALS patient is unable to be independent; to the contrary, he depends on others for every aspect of his care.  It would certainly be understandable if the victim became bitter and angry throughout this process but that is not my experience with ALS.  I have found that over time, ALS settles in to its true identity – A Love Story.  How is this terrible disease a love story you ask? 

We live in a country that values independence and self-sufficiency.  ALS quickly strips its victims of both of these fundamental needs.  As dependence on others becomes unavoidable, the love story begins to unfold.

Akhil was a pretty independent guy before ALS began to affect him.  As the disease began to impair his physical abilities, he had to rely on me to assist him with most routine tasks:  dressing, showering, shaving, flossing his teeth…  This enabled me to express a love for my husband that I never had a need to express before ALS.  As Akhil was cared for, he knew I loved him in a deeper way than he ever imagined.

The love story expands as God reaches out to families dealing with ALS through His people.  God nudges the hearts of his people to take action of some sort such as to make a phone call, send a note, take over dinner or help with a home maintenance project.  When His people act on those nudges, God’s love overflows to the family suffering.  As others serve us, we feel ensconced in love.  We feel comforted and loved as we are cared for in a way that would never have occurred were it not for this illness. 

We are part of A Love Story that is bigger than any of us.  The love story goes beyond our story and into God’s story as He loves us through this difficult time.  What is your role in His story?



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Patricia
2/19/2013 10:37:53 pm

I love what you wrote, Laura - Thank you for sharing this with us!

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    Laura Jhaveri

    Wife and mother coping with the daily struggles caring for a family with a serious affliction.

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