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A New Perspective

Dealing with a serious illness day in and day out puts things in a different perspective.  

“The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven..” 
― John Milton, Paradise Lost

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Memories

11/27/2012

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Someday is not a day of the week!
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Thanksgiving 2012 - A table filled with family makes a great memory!
I don’t know who coined that phrase, but I love it.  When we think we will do things “someday”, that day may never come.  Plan it or be spontaneous, whichever approach you take, make it happen!

We have moved a lot in our married life together.  We jokingly tell people that we are nomads moving from place to place wherever the work leads us.  We have lived in St. Louis twice, Dallas twice, Pittsburgh and Washington State.  Because we have moved so much, we have learned not to put things off for “someday”.  We tend to impulsively and enthusiastically live in each moment.  As a result, we carry special memories with us from each place we have lived.   Being so transient, I love memories.  They are easy to pack.  I can get them out whenever I feel the need to reminisce. They are also in abundant supply!

There are only a couple of areas in our lives where we have been extravagant.  We don’t drive fancy cars or have the latest technological gadgets; but one area where we have chosen to spend money extravagantly is on making memories.  One Mother’s Day, we had a limo pick up our moms and take all of us to a fine restaurant for brunch.  One year, we took my sister and her children on a Caribbean cruise with us.  We have created a memorable life together and hopefully shared some of it with others.  As we see the time we have together winding down, we seek opportunities to make more memories.  These memories may not be as extravagant as a vacation or a limo ride but they will be special nonetheless.  We cherish the time we have as a family at the dinner table simply talking and laughing.

As we enter the holiday season, I hope you will choose to make memories.  Don’t waste time and get stressed out worrying about finding the perfect gift, you already own it.  It is the gift of yourself, your time, your talents, your creativity.  Instead of visiting stores this season, visit the elderly to make some moments that will mean way more to them than any store-bought gift.  Instead of investing in things, invest in your family by slowing down this holiday to take the time to bake cookies with them or create traditions with them that they will remember long after the gift wrap has faded.

Whether we want to admit it or not, we are all transient beings just passing through this world en-route to our final destination.   As loved ones move on from this place, our memories will remain – let’s make some good ones!

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Visiting Santa at the Christmas Tree Farm - November 2012
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Mike
11/28/2012 04:24:52 am

I like your "he says, she says" blog concept! You and your husband both spoke to me today!

I like what you said about making memories. My wife and I just got back from a Thanksgiving getaway that we took together, and I'm so glad we took that time and got away. I came back SO renewed, and so in love. After 13 years I still marvel at this woman I married. One of our secrets is that we have taken getaways like this together over and over again since our honeymoon and never stopped making those memories.

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Laura link
12/1/2012 10:55:14 am

Mike,

I am so glad to hear you are making great memories with your wife. So many people today are busy just existing that there is no time for meaningful memories. When our girls were little, I know we were caught on that treadmill but fortunately, we caught on before it was too late.

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    Wife and mother coping with the daily struggles caring for a family with a serious affliction.

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