People are eager to help when someone is hurting but often they just don't know what to do.  Here are some suggestions of things we would appreciate but the list will apply to anyone you know who is hurting:

• Call, e-mail or send an old-fashioned note in the mail just to let us know you are thinking about us - you don't even have to bring up ALS; sometimes we don't want to talk about it either!
• Spend time with us laughing, watching movies or playing games.  We are a happy family and we love spending time with our friends but we may not have it in us to plan an evening together so ask if you can come over.
• Love our kids no matter how they present themselves.  Spend time with them helping them through this difficult time.  Take them to Starbuck's, on a walk or to a movie - provide a shoulder to cry on or a fun distraction from their reality.
• Offer to make us a meal.  A meal that Laura did not have to plan, shop for or clean up provides a welcome respite!  
• Offer specific assistance rather than asking what you can do to help.  We may be thinking, "The house needs to be painted", but you may be thinking, "I'll run to the store and pick up a gallon of milk for you."  Give us some ideas of what you are willing to do or how much time you would like to "volunteer" so we can utilize you accordingly.  We would love any help!
  
• Understand if we say "no" to your offers of company.  While we love all our friends, sometimes Akhil just needs uninterrupted rest and I have to act as the guard dog of his health.

• Recognize that when someone is not well, they need rest; therefore, short visits are best.

We are so thankful for all the friends who have stepped up and offered to help us.  We know when the time comes, we can count on you and that brings us peace.  When we walk through a storm together, we bond and develop a relationship that is deeper than what we would have had otherwise.