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Say Goodbye to Bye

8/30/2016

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​Saturday was wonderful! The weather was fabulous, the temperature, perfect, and to top it off my friend from high school, Dennis and his wife, Ann, flew in from St. Louis to spend time with me. Dennis and I went through the electrical engineering program together at Southern Illinois University.
 
Dennis's family took me in. I have many memories of playing flashlight tag with Tim and Denise, Dennis's younger brother and sister. The greatest gift Dennis gave me was treating me like a friend. He didn't treat me like some weirdo kid who was obviously "not from around here ". I am happy to report he hasn't changed. When he visited me this time, he treated me like Akhil, not Akhil with ALS. I absolutely love him for not letting ALS define me!
 
We were (are) uber-nerds, complete with playing Dungeons and Dragons for hours on end. Yes, we lived up to every cliche except one, both Dennis and I were off-the-chart extraverts. We have never met a stranger. So we had a chance to catch up on past friends and weird people that we have known.
 
Neither Dennis nor Ann had spent any time in the Northwest before. We took advantage of the afternoon weather and took them to a nearby winery. Laura, Ann, Dennis and I all laughed at the antics we perpetrated in our youth. It was so much fun that we lost track of time. The afternoon turned to evening and the winery was closing for the night. We went back to our home and we did what everyone does, we had that awkward moment when you knew it was time to say, “Goodbye”.
 
Just for the record, I hate that moment! There is a level of sadness that accompanies the word “bye”.
 
As I went to bed I replayed the day’s events, still smiling on the inside, that is, until I got to the "bye”.  I had an epiphany. I was so excited I couldn't wait to write this post.
 
I was analyzing why I feel sad when I hear “bye”. The reason is there is a finality to "bye”. 

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When I was growing up in an Indian household, we had a custom of not saying, “bye”. Instead the women would say, "Yeh They”, and the men would say, "Yeh Though”. It literally translates to "I am arriving" as in “I will be returning and this is not a final leave I am taking”.  In English we say "until we meet again".  It is a bit superstitious, never saying “bye” because it is too final. Yet, it is an uplifting sentiment that leaves everyone with hope of seeing one another again.

I can still hear Uma, my sister, saying, "Yeh They Ah-ee" (Ah-ee means mom) or "Yeh They Doofus" (Doofus means brilliant brother, that is a loose translation).
 
If you come over for a visit say, “until we meet again" as you are leaving instead of saying “Good Bye”.  Or if you want to really impress me, say the gender-specific version of the phrase with a slight Indian accent. As a matter of fact, you might try this with visits with other people too!
 
Yeh Though

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Cyndy English
8/30/2016 05:58:17 pm

Akhil, Your posts are always encouraging. I know it is not easy to stay positive, but I know your faith has been an inspiration to many. We have two other friends who are dealing with ALS, and we have encouraged them to check out your website.
I especially love this recent post. I don't think there are many of us who like goodbyes. I really like your suggestions.
I'm sure you don't remember this, but I remember the first time you made an impression on me. We had met at Vancouver C of C one Sunday. I must confess that I'm not great at remembering names until I get to know someone well. I was surprised the next Sunday when you came up to me and remembered my name, and I have remembered yours since that time! 😊.
You and your family continue to be in my prayers as you continue this life journey. ❤️
Until we meet again. . .

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Susan Jeep Jones
8/30/2016 07:07:24 pm

Akhil, you are anything but defined by ALS! When God made you he broke the mold. I am so happy you still have that wonderful, caring, intuitive, beautiful, and genius-level, intellectually bizarre personality! I love it. Thank you for being you and giving so much to others in the midst of your struggles.

With much love and many, many prayers, Susan I'm still believing Ahkil!

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Dennis Nadler
8/30/2016 07:30:04 pm

Yeh Though! (with an Indian accent - lol)

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Patty Watkindon
8/31/2016 08:34:32 am

Love this Akhil! ( and You!! ❤️)

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